When He Pulls Away, The Secure Woman Rises

Vanetta Rather
Oct 15
2 min read

I know that moment when someone you care about starts to pull back. The text messages slow down, the calls feel different, and suddenly your mind starts spinning. For many women, especially those who’ve experienced anxious attachment, this is the moment that can make your heart race with fear.

But here’s the truth: a secure woman doesn’t chase—she rises.

She doesn’t lose herself trying to hold on to someone who’s drifting. She doesn’t beg for clarity or question her worth. Instead, she stays grounded in her power, connected to her feminine energy, and allows space to reveal the truth.

🌿 Why Men Pull Away (and What It Really Means)

Men pull away for many reasons—some healthy, some not.

A healthy man may pull back to process his feelings or gain clarity about the connection.
An unhealed man may distance himself because he desires love but fears true intimacy.
And some men pull away as a power move to make a woman chase.

Whatever the reason, the secure woman understands one thing: his pullback is about him—not her worth.

🪷 What Secure Women Do When He Pulls Back

She Stays Rooted in Her Worth She doesn’t panic or overanalyze every text. She remembers who she is, no matter who shows up or pulls away.
She Doesn’t Chase — She Leans Back Secure women understand that chasing is a form of self-abandonment. Instead of forcing connection, they allow space to reveal alignment.
She Honors Her Emotional Boundaries Instead of letting fear run the show, she chooses self-respect over desperation.
She Trusts Her Intuition A secure woman listens to her inner voice. If something feels off, she doesn’t gaslight herself.
She Chooses Herself Every Time Whether he returns or not, she knows the real win is never losing herself.

✨ From Anxious to Secure: A Healing Journey

For many women, pulling back can trigger old wounds—abandonment fears, childhood patterns, and unhealed attachment styles. That’s why healing isn’t just about love; it’s about becoming the woman who doesn’t crumble when someone else shifts.

Becoming secure doesn’t mean you won’t feel the sting of distance. It means you know how to stand firm in your power while it’s happening.

This is what I help women do every day:❤️ Heal their attachment wounds🌸 Reclaim their feminine energy👑 Stand in unshakable self-worth

🌺 Your Power Move Starts With You

If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling when a man pulls away, this is your reminder: you are not here to chase love. You are here to be love.

The secure woman doesn’t wait to be chosen—she chooses herself.

🪷 Watch my latest YouTube video: “When He Pulls Away, the Secure Woman Rises” — where I go deeper into these steps and show you how to shift from panic to power.👉 Watch it here

And if you’re ready to heal your anxious attachment and awaken your secure feminine energy, visit Awaken Her Now to explore coaching, courses, and our growing sisterhood.