Secure Women Don't Abandon Themselves

If you’re anything like the women I coach, you’ve spent most of this year doing so much for everyone else. You’ve held it down, shown up strong, and kept it together even when no one saw your tears.

But now we’ve entered the fourth quarter of 2025 — that sacred final stretch of the year where you get to decide how you’ll finish: disconnected or deeply aligned.

Finishing the year strong isn’t just about checking off goals — it’s about coming home to yourself. And to do that, you’ve got to stop abandoning yourself.

What Self-Abandonment Really Looks Like

Self-abandonment isn’t always obvious. It often hides behind “I’m fine.”Here are some signs you may be abandoning yourself without even realizing it:

• You ignore your intuition to avoid disappointing others.

• You minimize your needs because you don’t want to “make things complicated.”

• You silence your truth to keep the peace.

• You numb out — scrolling, overworking, or staying busy to avoid feeling.

• You prioritize other people’s dreams over your own.

• You call it “being strong,” but really you’re exhausted and resentful inside.

These are all ways we step away from our divine feminine essence — the part of us that’s intuitive, nurturing, soft yet powerful.

Why We Do It

Many of us learned self-abandonment early. We were praised for being the “good girl” — quiet, helpful, accommodating. We learned love was earned through sacrifice. And somewhere along the way, we forgot that our own needs matter.

But here’s the truth: you can’t awaken the woman you’re meant to be while constantly betraying yourself. Healing begins when you decide to stop leaving yourself behind.

How to Stop Abandoning Yourself

1. Get honest about what you feel. Healing starts with awareness. Journal what’s really been going on inside you — without judgment.

2. Reclaim your boundaries. Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re bridges back to self-respect.

3. Start keeping your word to yourself. Every time you follow through on your own promise, you strengthen your self-trust — and self-trust is magnetic.

4. Practice mindful stillness. Spend 10 quiet minutes each day tuning in — not doing, not fixing, just being.

5. Choose self-alignment over self-sacrifice. Ask yourself, “What choice honors my peace?” Then make that choice — even if it scares you.

A Word on Finishing the Year Strong

Finishing strong isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about being more intentional. Ask yourself:

• What am I no longer abandoning?

• What version of me am I calling back home before this year ends?

• What do I want to carry into the new year — and what do I need to release?

When you commit to showing up for yourself, everything around you begins to shift. Relationships, opportunities, and even your sense of purpose start aligning with your healed energy.

Watch the YouTube Video on Self Abandonment

It dives even deeper into this topic. I share my own story of how self-abandonment showed up in my life — and the powerful tools I used to heal and come home to myself.

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Final Thoughts

This 4th quarter, I want you to make one powerful decision: Stop waiting to feel ready. Stop waiting for someone else to choose you.

Choose yourself now!

Because when you stop abandoning yourself, you don’t just finish the year strong — you finish it whole.